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Honest pieces about long-term intimacy. What works, what doesn't, what most advice gets wrong. Updated weekly.
Why your sex life feels routine, and the small shift that actually fixes it
Most advice for couples in a rut is wrong. The fix isn't a getaway weekend or a new toy. It's something much smaller, and you can start tonight.
How to talk to your partner about kinks without it being weird
Bringing up something new is the hardest part of any couples' sex life. Three scripts that actually work, and what to do if it lands badly.
What is dead bedroom syndrome, and is it actually solvable?
Half a million people post about it on Reddit. The phrase makes it sound terminal. It isn't, but the way most couples try to fix it is the exact thing keeping them stuck.
How to ask for what you want in bed (a script that actually works)
The block isn't your partner. It's how you ask. The phrasing matters more than the request.
Five conversations every long-term couple should have once a year
Not the boring ones. The ones that actually move the relationship forward, and how to start each.
Aftercare for couples: what it is, and why it matters even for vanilla sex
The five minutes after matter more than most of the minutes during. Here's how to do it well.
Why scheduling sex is good, actually
Yes, it kills spontaneity. That's the point. Here's the case for putting it on the calendar.
The case for a ten-minute couples comfort check-in
Once a quarter. No fancy structure. A small set of questions that catches problems before they grow.
The science of slow burn: why anticipation beats novelty
Why the partner you've had for ten years can still light you up more than a stranger, and the research that explains it.
Mismatched libidos: what's actually going on, and how to bridge it
The 'high desire' and 'low desire' framing is misleading. The real distinction is between two different ways of getting in the mood, and you can work with both.